Getting a night off from your children is a rare treat. Everyone loves spending time with their little ones, but it’s also important to invest time in your relationship with your partner. Going out on the occasional date night is crucial to keep your relationship ticking over and to make sure you see each other as people, instead of just mom and dad. Here are some ideas of what to do – and what not to do!
What To Do
Go ice skating. This time of year before the holidays, ice skating is a perfect date activity. Not only will you burn some calories zooming around the ice rink, but if you’re a little more unsteady on your skates, it’ll give you a great excuse to cling to your partner’s side and hold his hand – even if you do end up tangled in a heap on the ice together! You’ll have plenty of laughs if you go ice skating, especially if you go for hot cocoa spiked with a little rum afterwards. Treat yourselves by taking a taxi home afterwards – check out sites like rydely.com to get a good deal so you don’t feel like you’re breaking the bank.
What Not To Do
See a movie. If your partner is a huge Star Wars buff and is desperate to see the new movie, then by all means take him when it’s released. But there’s no point in going to see a random movie for the hell of it. Not only is it expensive what with the price of tickets and snacks, but it won’t give you a chance to talk and catch up and connect with each other. Also, with the sleep deprivation that comes with small kids, one of you is likely to fall asleep in the warm dark movie theatre, and you don’t want to spend all night shoving your elbow into your partner’s side to stop him snoring!
What To Do
Go to a museum. With little kids, it sometimes feels like intellectual conversation has become a thing of the past. Challenge your brain by picking out a museum or art exhibit to take your partner to, and really appreciate it and take it in. Make sure you talk – quietly, of course, so you don’t disturb the other museum-goers – the whole way round about which pieces you love and which pieces you don’t love, and why. You’ll learn a lot more about what your partner likes, and see a more philosophical side of each other than when you’re chasing your kids around in the evenings.
What Not To Do
Go to a bar. Of course, you’re still the same person you were before you had kids – but your list of early morning tasks is very different and a whole lot more painful to do with a hangover! The days of sleeping until eleven are gone – no matter how many glasses of wine you drink and how much your head hurts the following day, you’ll still be up with the kids before sunrise, and the previous night might not quite seem like it was worth it.
Remember that the key to a successful date is to communicate with each other. Choose an activity where you can talk to your partner and reaffirm your connection, and then you’ll be ready to go.