How To Tell The Family About Your Elopement Without Causing A World War

 

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We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again – elopement is making a comeback. And it’s hardly surprising considering that elopement offers benefits including affordability, sustainability, and unfounded levels of wedding day ease. But, you know who probably won’t be so keen to jump on the elopement bandwagon? Your family. 

While time has moved on from famed elopement scandals like Lydia Bennet and George Wickham, family members may still feel disappointed to miss out on a big wedding day. This is especially true for mothers and grandparents who rarely understand the elopement appeal. 

Naturally, you may feel nervous about informing these people of your decision. Family fallings out have happened over less! But, we’re here with some top tips on how to spread the news of your elopement without starting the next world war (within your family, at least)!

# 1 - Think About Timings

Timing is everything when it comes to bomb defusion, and the same thing can be said for when you choose to reveal your elopement.

Sharing your news before your elopement happens can be useful because it can stop family members from feeling blindsided or lied to (albeit by omission). This may be a useful tactic if you’re worried that certain family members will react badly, as it shows that you’re still sparing them some thought. Alternatively, some couples prefer to wait and share the news until afterwards, which can be useful if you’re worried about family interference.

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# 2 - Find New Ways to Include Your Family

Whether it’s your express intention or not, elopement inevitably excludes people who may have imagined your wedding almost as much as you have. While eloping is completely your decision, those people also have a right to feel hurt or robbed of a big life experience. 

You can ease that loss a little by simply finding new ways to include your family. A pre- or post-elopement party is the best example of this, as it still gives everyone a chance to celebrate your married life. Equally, you could bring close family members like your mum along to help you choose what to wear so that they can share in your excitement. 

# 3 - Be Willing to Share Some Details

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Elopement should be intimate, but keeping everything between your partner and you will leave a lot of family members out in the cold. Hence, you should also be willing to share some details of the big day. 

This doesn’t mean you need to recount the whole experience, but it might be worth letting family members admire key wedding pictures. Equally, people will love to look at your wedding ring, especially if it’s an elegant diamond option like this ADA Diamonds lab grown fine jewelry. And, of course, if you do feel happy to share a few small details, that can help to make family members feel far more a part of things. 

Elopement is your choice, but that doesn’t mean you can completely overlook how you share your big news with your family!